I have to submit this article by tomorrow and I have not yet managed to write a single sentence that I like. Whenever I write a sentence, I immediately just hit the ‘delete’ key, because it doesn’t look ‘right’. I’ve been postponing this article for the whole week (Loving Yourself Is The Real Freedom) that I still have more research to do. Every time I find a new text on this issue, I tell myself, oh my God, I hope I can write this way, so why didn’t I think about it? And of course I lost my way to write.
I was just reading what my partner wrote and sure enough, “I can’t write that well, blah blah…” The next moment I am watching a dumb video, trying to avoid my inability to write the one article, which is about my truth.
Have you ever found a similar situation?
Have you ever found a similar situation?
Most of us did!
How did we get there?
Very simple – we were conditioned to believe that we were not good enough.
We concluded that we are not lovable until we are good enough. We were taught the ‘right’ standards and ‘right’ values and we were expected to live up to them so ‘they’ will love us.
Until today those societal values and standards are our limited reality, a kind of virtual prison
Focus On Yourself Is Important For Loving Yourself
Since we learn to focus on others’ values, we continuously compare ourselves to ‘them’. We either end up feeling inferior to ‘them’ or superior to ‘them’. In any case, our focus is on them and we tend to forget who we are and what our qualities are.
One of our prison walls is the need to be ‘successful’ (in our society’s eyes of course). To be successful we try to imitate people who we believe are good at what they are doing. We work hard to change and ‘fix’ ourselves. We set for ourselves standards that do not belong to us and often are unattainable for us.
This ‘fixing’ process takes away our creativity and reduces our energy, which makes us feel less capable and loved. The vicious circle is closed… The prison gates are locked.
Even if we manage to achieve these impossible standards (after hard work), or become the people we think should be ‘right’, we find ourselves limited and confined. Feel we have lost our ability to move freely and express who we really are.
We end up, again, not loving ourselves.
Loving Yourself and Stop Comparing Yourself To Others
Loving yourself means you want to stop comparing yourself to others. It means appreciating who you are in any situation. It’s all about learning to recognize who you are.
If you are a morning person – Terrific!
You have more chances to see a sunrise, a new day, a new beginning.
If you are a night person – Wonderful!
You get to see the other side of the day; you learn to think unorthodoxly.
If you are a good communicator – Fantastic!
You have the power to reach people and make connections.
If you’re not communicating well – cool!
You can listen to people and they love to be heard.
No matter who you are, there is greatness in it – as it is who you are.
The only way to be able to see it, is to stop comparing yourself to another.
Fall In Love With Yourself
Know that there is only one person like you in this whole world, who makes you unique and complete, and in other words – perfect!
Perfect means that it has everything in it. The good things and the bad ones; the beauty and the ugly; success and failure.
When you are ready to accept that you are exactly as you are, you will realize that there is no need to change anything.
The only thing that is left to do is fall in love with that person that you are already.
When you truly love yourself, you are free to choose to express yourself at any time …
And isn’t that what freedom is all about…?
I re-read this article … it’s definitely not perfect.
But, hey… I’m perfect!
Perfect the way I am, and that’s more than enough…
Also read this article Embrace Imperfections: Learn The Best Ways
- Usman loves to write about motivational content, self-development, and anything related to living a healthy life. He has a passion for helping others to be the best version of themselves.