There is no doubt that losing someone you love is the hardest thing in the world. Death is not the only reason that people fall apart. This isn’t only the way the relationships end. The loss of any romantic relationship can be defined in many ways where relationship ends in breakup or divorce, friendships become unfruitful or any conflict swallows one of our dear family members. This is indeed very painful where you have to move on from any of your relationships.
Sometimes we lose people because of our negligence towards them and more often people leave us behind for their extra charms or to feed their own ego. Mostly, people fall out of our expectations or we feel unable to match their criteria of relationship. Sometimes destiny plays a tough role in our lives. All of us do lose people once in our life. Whether they do us wrong or we become one of the reasons.
We swallow this hard pill of leaving people behind and continue to move on. It causes agony or sadness. We venture out on journey of self-evaluation, asking ourselves different questions whether it’s our fault or it is their ego? Could the relationship be repaired? Does it need any other chance? During this meditation we are losing ourselves and our own personality gets blurred and clumsy.
people have a specific role in our lives
Because when we make any relationship we give a part of ourselves to that relationship and when that relationship ends it seems that it has taken a part of us with it and we feel incomplete. There are several more feelings we fear to confront and these feelings haunt us around holidays, anniversaries, and other family gatherings.
The absence of that particular person stings us every time we don’t find them around. Whether we leave them or they abandon us, we feel pain that rattles inside our heart for weeks, months and years. But we need to understand this reality that people have a specific role in our lives and they have to leave the stage after performing their role even if we don’t want them to leave.
“In three words I can sum up everything I’ve learned about life: it goes on”. Robert Frost
We can’t read the whole book if we keep on dwelling on the previous chapter. Every old chapter needs to close before we can start a new chapter and every friendship needs to end before we find that a true friend lies within ourselves. Every breakup needs to happen before the arrival of any change. So all these things go hand in hand. We have to look at things with different perspectives without letting them break us.
If we’re the cause of the end of our relationship then we can seek the open doors of forgiveness. If they’ve caused us pain then forgive them because that is not for them, that is for us. Forgiveness doesn’t mean reconciliation, we don’t have to tie the same knot with them.
Every relation gives a lesson
Every relationship teaches us a wiser lesson that we can’t learn without experiencing it. Sometimes it mends us. It makes us a better version of ourselves. It doesn’t let us revise the same mistakes. Sometimes losing a relationship is a blessing in disguise. Relationship nourishes with care, love, affection, efforts and much more. As it is said that you can’t choose your relatives but you can choose your friends. So choose people wisely.
“In the end there doesn’t have to be anyone who understands you. There just has to be someone who wants to.” Robert Brault.
Don’t lose yourself in order to search for love around you. People come and go and that’s how life is supposed to be. We must not lose ourselves in this whole process. Don’t challenge your worth and existence. Every bit of our emotions is valid. Cherish the memories with people you have lost and just drain out the filthy ones. After all we need to realize that it was past and now it’s gone. Nothing can prepare us for the fact that life continues and we have to keep going. Remember one thing: losing someone we love is part of life and we all have to face this fact.
- Hifza wasiq is creative and talented. She has been writing for over three years. She enjoys writing on different topics. Her education is in English Literature and linguistics. Besides writing, she enjoys reading books.